By: Dani Tirrell
This new season of Intimate Conversation I have asked each guest to share with me what Black Love looks like to them. I have purposely avoided that question. I think now is the time to share.
Black Love looks like:
My queer ass
Trans spectrum experience
Big Mama talks
And Grand daddy handshakes
Dressing (not stuffing) on the holidays
Thick sisters in move something dresses
Brothers with lime green suits and matching gators
Family reunions with matching shirts
Seeing the young Queens voguing down to some nasty beats
The no shirt brothers playing ball and the sweat hitting all the right places
Playing hide and seek outside with the cousins
Spades/Bid Whist and Tunk
My granny takin’ sips of my granddad's TEA (V.O.)
Shakin’ my ass in the club with a bunch of beautful Black gay ass people
Black Trans women owning every ounce of their womanhood
The soloist at church sangin' you down to lay prostrate in front of the altar
Sin……...all of them!
Box braids, wraps, weaves and bobs……..and the colors…..oh the colors
Loud talking and even louder loving
The bass as cars roll down the street
The smell of the trees (those happy cigarettes) if you happen to indulge
Having your aunt and uncle clear the dance floor….to show you how it is done
Embracing your HIV positive friends for what will be the last time
Young kids dreaming about a future of fame and fortune
Kissing your man and not being afraid of what the world thinks (some gay shit)
Yes….all the gay shit!
Black love is laying your aunt and mom to rest, with the understanding that the gift they gave you was to keep loving, discovering and always seek healing.
Black love is your father supporting and loving your Black ass, queer ass, trans spectrum experience.
Black love is knowing your deaf grandmother is always with you…...it is knowing that you can not make it without her whispering in your ear how you are worthy.
Black love has no rhyme or reason….it is beyond anything that we could ever imagine. Black love is Goddess and she is divine and she is feminine and she is me.